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How Denial Holds You Back and Ways to Overcome It

 

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Denial Is Holding You Back: Time to Get Real About Your Feelings

I want to dive into a topic that we often skim over but that is crucial to our emotional and spiritual growth: Denial.

If you’ve been with me on this journey for a while, you’ll know my tagline: “Get real about how you feel so you can heal.” This has been my guiding philosophy for more than a decade, and the reason is simple: Denial keeps us stuck. It holds us back from becoming our authentic selves and from healing the wounds that life inevitably brings.

A Personal Story: The LA Fires

Recently, we’ve all watched in horror as the LA fires have raged. Back in 2018, I experienced something similar when my house was caught in the Woolsey fire in Malibu, and it was life-changing. Many of you have asked me how I coped during that time. What helped me was acknowledging the difficulty of the situation and receiving support from people who validated my experience. What didn’t help? Toxic positivity and dismissive comments like, “At least you’re alive” or “You’ll rebuild.”

How Denial Impacts Healing

Why is denial so damaging? When we don’t fully acknowledge our pain and give it the time it needs, we can’t heal. You see, denying reality prevents us from integrating our experiences and moving forward. If you grew up in an emotionally immature or narcissistic environment, you might have learned to deny your feelings as a survival mechanism. This can lead to unhealed trauma and recurring patterns in your adult life.

We often bypass our real feelings because facing them is painful. But bypassing doesn’t make the pain go away; it just buries it deeper. Sooner or later, it will resurface, often at the most inconvenient times, and in more complicated ways.

Facing Your Fears and Being Honest

I know it can be terrifying to confront your true feelings, especially if they bring up fear, sadness, or anger. But denial creates self-abandonment and unalignment. If you want to live a synchronistic, aligned life, you have to be honest with yourself. Even if it’s scary, even if it means admitting that you hate some parts of yourself or your life.

The endgame isn’t just to feel the pain but to work through it. When you allow yourself to be real, you create space for healing and growth. For instance, losing my house, and going through a divorce, were experiences that shredded my life to pieces, but they also rebuilt me in ways I couldn’t have imagined.

So, my beautiful souls, let’s commit to being real about our feelings, no matter how hard it gets. I invite you to watch the full episode above where I delve deeper into how denial has impacted my life and how you can start breaking through the barriers it creates.

Plus, keep an eye on my website for exciting upcoming events. The Truth Room is getting a facelift, and I can’t wait for you to see what’s coming in February.

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Plus, keep an eye on my website for exciting upcoming events. The Truth Room is getting a facelift, and I can’t wait for you to see what’s coming in February.

Thank you for being here. Share this with someone who needs to hear it, and let’s continue this journey of growth and healing together.

In this episode:
00:00:40: Definition of Denial
00:01:24: Personal Experience with LA Fires
00:03:01: Childhood Trauma and Denial
00:03:33: Narcissistic Parents and Denial
00:05:29: Misguided Therapy and Forgiveness
00:06:26: Real Feelings and Healing Process
00:06:58: Toxic Relationships and Childhood Trauma
00:08:32: Self-Love and Denial
00:09:44: Consistency in Inner Child Work
00:10:15: Inner Child Integration
00:11:02: Truth and Self-Aligned Living
00:11:25: Personal Sharing and Authenticity
00:12:13: Challenges as Opportunities for Growth
00:14:15: Facing Fears and Denial
00:14:39: Loss and Resilience
00:15:11: Embracing Difficulty for Growth
00:15:39: Encouragement to Face Denial
00:16:20: Closing

Meet the Host

Candace Van Dell

As a Spiritual Coach & New Thought Leader, Candace focuses on a soul-centered approach to healing. It is her belief that many of our negative “symptoms” are signs that we are out of alignment with our true selves. We have been conditioned to align with external authorities, societal ideals, out of date learning styles and perfectionistic standards.

We can’t experience or maintain true health unless we are true to ourselves. To clear unwanted symptoms, we must get back into alignment with what we FEEL.

“We are not humans having a spiritual experience, we are spiritual beings having a human experience.”

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