Healing the Unworthiness Wound

Unraveling Self-Abandonment: Healing the Root of Unworthiness

In this episode, I’m excited to discuss one of the most poignant and transformative topics: Healing the unworthiness wound.

You know, I created a course last year called *I Am Worthy*, and it’s become such an essential part of my mission. The tagline for this course says it all: “The root cause of codependency is insecurity. The root cause of insecurity is unworthiness. And the root cause of unworthiness is self-abandonment.” Understanding this core truth is pivotal. And, let me emphasize this — none of this is your fault.

What makes this course even more powerful is that it’s now available On-Demand at half the price! You can go through it at your own pace, and the integration process extends for 30 days after completion to ensure these insights become life-lasting transformations. This isn’t just about understanding — it’s about embodying and manifesting change in your life.

Now, let’s dive deeper. The notion of unworthiness stems from self-abandonment. Often, we enact upon our inner child what was enacted upon us as children. If you were emotionally abandoned — and trust me, that’s a massive wound — you’ve likely internalized that imprint. Even if your fundamental needs like food and shelter were met, the emotional neglect leaves a lasting scar. Many of us experience this nagging feeling of not being permitted to be ourselves fully. We might have received constant signals of being wrong, leading to self-doubt. Whether it came from parents, siblings, peers, or society, some aspect of you felt abandoned. This wound takes root and flourishes until we acknowledge and address it. You wouldn’t be here, seeking this understanding and guidance, if some part of you didn’t crave to reconnect with your authentic self.

Healing means recognizing your self-worth and giving yourself the permission to shine and feel deserving once again. One potent example is reflected in the lives of some of my clients, especially around relationships. Take this instance — two women reached out to me, both dealing with partners who wouldn’t commit yet always had ‘side pieces.’ This unfortunate pattern signals an insecure attachment both to their partners and more critically, to their inner selves.

Our relationships are mirrors reflecting our relationship with our subconscious being — our inner child. If we allow detrimental patterns and behaviors, it means we have an insecure attachment to our inner child, perpetuating the cycle of unworthiness. Remember, a secure attachment to self is fundamental, and it begins with feeling the discontent and vocalizing it. Speak up for your emotional self. It isn’t about fearing abandonment by others when you assert your feelings. It’s about the self-abandonment that manifests when you don’t.

Yes, speaking up is a daunting task, but it’s the key to validating your worth and anchoring that validation deeply within yourself. You deserve more love and acceptance from yourself. Let’s stop punishing ourselves for our coping mechanisms and instead, understand and unlearn these conditioned responses. Whether it’s obsessive thoughts or patterns formed from trauma, they don’t define your worth. They are reactions to what happened to you, not reflections of who you are.

As we work to heal, remember, you have the power to change. Step away from blame and into self-acceptance. Be the unconditional mother to your inner child that you might never have had. Treat your inner self with the love, respect, and understanding you always deserved.

If this resonated with you, I encourage you to listen to the full episode above. Dive into this transformative journey with me, and let’s heal these wounds together.

Also, don’t forget to check out my *I Am Worthy* course. It’s available on demand at half the price, a truly life-changing journey that you can embark on at your pace. Check out I Am Worthy here.

Remember, beautiful souls, you are enough, you are worthy, and you deserve all the love and happiness in the world.

In this episode:

01:13 – Understanding the Unworthiness Wound
03:00 – Self-Abandonment and Relationships
06:14 – Speaking Up and Building Worthiness
09:42 – Breaking the Cycle of Abandonment
11:03 – Living Authentically and Without Defense
13:33 – Realizing and Claiming Self-Worth
16:24 – Taking Responsibility and Ending Self-Blame
18:13 – Final Thoughts and Course Information